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"The Internet has become a weapon."

This sort of rude behavior in the guise of being "helpful" makes my blood boil.

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veronica_rich
Oct. 4th, 2012 01:48 am (UTC)
It's called concern trolling. What he's saying is "I don't want to fuck you, but I'm going to say it in a way that if you disagree with me, you're being lazy and stupid and irrational."
bonnie_halfelvn
Oct. 4th, 2012 02:11 am (UTC)
I had not heard that term before, but it certainly fits.
veronica_rich
Oct. 4th, 2012 02:14 am (UTC)
Well, it's kind of like saying "I like you, but I'm afraid if you stay gay, you're going to hell." It's taking the onus off of YOU criticizing someone (and the possibility of being called on it) and putting it off on a straw man. Dude who wrote in to this lady has set up "the community" she has "a responsibility" to by her appearance as the blame, to try to deflect from his own opinion.
bonnie_halfelvn
Oct. 4th, 2012 02:20 am (UTC)
Forget "like." So many "Christians" tell gay people they're going to hell - because that's how they show love.

You're absolutely right - they deflect the criticism back at the person they're bullying by playing the victim card if they're called on it. Because they're only saying something out of "concern" for the other person's well-being.
dreamer_98
Oct. 4th, 2012 03:38 am (UTC)
So awesome, but so sad she had to address the issue in the first place.

I heard a bit about this on my local news, and the anchors were discussing whether or not what the viewer wrote was actually bullying. *sighs* Although it's a FOX affiliate, so I shouldn't be too surprised.
bonnie_halfelvn
Oct. 4th, 2012 10:39 am (UTC)
I think it's bullying. It's at least extremely rude.
elvishtard
Oct. 4th, 2012 02:05 pm (UTC)
This woman is such an inspiration.

I used to be obese when I was younger, and I had a few assholes come out of the woodwork, and act like this. They think they're doing you some sort of favor. They truly believe what they're saying makes sense and isn't, in the slightest, hurtful. They think they're helping.

Pointing out something that someone already is fully aware of, isn't helping. Not to mention, I don't think she's qualified as obese, but just over weight. For god's sakes she's had 3 kids! Let that asshole become a woman for a day and push out just one kid, so they can see what it does to a woman's body. Not everyone has a celebrity trainer to help them shed baby weight.

Despite the fact she just might be over weight. I can eat less and exercise day and night, but I'll still have some sort of chunk on me. I was born a chunky person. It runs in my family. People just can't comprehend that.
bonnie_halfelvn
Oct. 4th, 2012 04:59 pm (UTC)
I've never been obese, and I don't go around giving unsolicited advice to people who are. But I've struggled with my weight for the past several years.

Everyone's got their own journey to take, and when I can look in the mirror and see a woman with no issues or vices, then I'll be free to point. I'm not holding my breath.
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