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This has been a very strange year for me, in terms of having rejected Christianity. It’s strange because some of my friends have pretty much the same beliefs, but call themselves Christians. It doesn’t work for me. I feel very much like an outsider, and I don't think I could ever go back. It all feels fake now.

I've gone to the occasional worship service, mainly because friends were there, but it is very surreal. It's almost like I died and I'm looking at myself from the ceiling or something.

I feel like I’ve been lied to all my life, and it hurts.

I am trying to free myself, but sometimes I feel like I’m free-falling without a parachute.

I am trying to free myself, but the foundations of my Christian childhood will always be a part of who I am, both the good and the bad.

I find myself quoting scripture because it’s there in my brain, and it helps me make sense of a situation. And those Christian-based phrases: “There, but for the grace of God…”

Someday, I may be in a nursing home with dementia, singing hymns and praying, because that’s the only thing I understand anymore. (“There, but for the grace of God…”)

Those foundations of my childhood led me down a road I no longer wish to travel. I am slowly constructing a new foundation.

As human beings, we need to label things, but the labels all belong to organized religions or agnostics or atheists, and none reflect who I am. Even Spiritualism has a church in this town. But I no longer desire a ritual built around any label. I no longer wish for someone else to shape what my beliefs mean.

So what am I? What do I believe?

I believe in spirits, and I believe in Spirit(s). I believe in the light and dark that exist within each one of us. Our day-to-day struggle is within us. And we get a little help from our friends. And sometimes our Friend(s).

Meanwhile, I live every day, trying to get it right. Trying to choose love. Knowing that I can’t fix everything, but I must help fix some things.

One day at a time.

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ravennaneroon
Apr. 21st, 2012 05:00 pm (UTC)
I'm a little late to this thread, but only because I've been thinking about what to say.

There is nothing wrong with Seeking your own path. Abandonment of religion is not abandonment of faith. In my own journey I embraced that free fall just to see where it led me. The place I am now is very self-sufficient but not independent, and I like it that way. It allows for personal growth as well as involving others in my faith.

You don't necessarily have to rip up all the foundations of your House of Faith. You know there are some things about Christianity that you like and make sense to you. Those things are in other religions too- love is a universal cornerstone of every religion- the problem is that religion tends to try to tell you how and who to love. I personally think that Jesus would be appalled at what an exclusive club Christianity has turned out to be.

Be curious. Explore what you feel is right. Your morality is within you, not something that is imposed. You might find that those foundations you're so frustrated with right now are actually ones you'd like to keep pieces of. Love is everywhere, not just in religion.

I don't go to church regularly, much to my mother's dismay. She doesn't seem to see the hypocrisy. We're individual practitioners and prefer to keep our worship a private matter between us and the universe. Gods are not made, nor are they born- they are chosen.

What I do is more like practicing being present. I call it thinking sideways- expanding your awareness to encompass everything now and progress forward into each new present as it occurs and not trying to anticipate. It gives perspective on my choices for my future. This also means I have to take responsibility for the consequences of those choices and not blame them on something else like karma or God's will.

Bright blessings on your journey. It's not easy, but you are courageous. Feel free to PM or email me any time. You need not be alone for all of your trip. :)
bonnie_halfelvn
Apr. 21st, 2012 06:08 pm (UTC)
I think that for the most part, I know which parts of Christianity I will keep in my heart. What I'm struggling to let go of is the anger at those who have fed me the kool-aid and at myself for drinking it for so long.

It's like a grieving process for me, and I have not reached the acceptance phase yet.

For the most part, I feel most spiritual when I'm singing and when I'm in nature. For now, I will embrace it when I feel it, and leave it alone when I don't.

Thanks for the invitation. I may take you up on that.
ravennaneroon
Apr. 22nd, 2012 04:12 am (UTC)
The door is always open.

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